Wednesday 6th August 2008
by ChichiI have been reading, hearing and watching about how some people react to commitment and marriage. They find it horrible! I wonder why they react that way. It scares them and makes them feel like a noose is around their necks. This is really foreign to me. Commitment is something that I value most. But it is something that I am not afraid of. Marriage is the same to me.
I am wondering about this because I was reading Breaking Dawn, the fourth book in the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer. The main character, Bella Swan, hyperventilates by just the mere mention of marriage. This series is supposed to be a big hit because it relates to how young adults of this generation. It makes me wonder if marriage is really deplorable for some people considering the rate of marriages over 30 and 40 years of age.
Could someone tell me why some people react horribly to commitment and marriage?
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My assessment is a bit different. Look to the Baby Boomer’s divorce rates for your answer. The kids that grew up in those crazy relationships are a little jaded.
Me? I’ve been with my husband since I was 19, married when I was 21. Commitment works nicely.
Some people cannot handle the thought of spending their lives in one place with one person forever. Some people cannot commit to things, especially a marriage. There are millions of reasons and I do not think that we could ever know all of them.
Saddens me a little to hear that the YA series is bringing that to light.
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Perhaps it’s from selfishness, it is in my case. I have been married, he left, but I hadn’t ever wanted to be married in the first place. Once I was, I was committed to the marriage because that’s how it is, right? But I don’t want to marry again because you have to always have someone “in your face”, always there, always knowing you, always having to be taken into consideration. Kids are perfect, you can commit your all to them – then they grow up and move out! After that, being together is a matter of when you both want to.
Could it be the fear of losing that freedom? Frankly speaking, I do not know the reason just as you do not have the slightest idea too. To me commitment and marriage is never an issue.