Sometimes it is best to use the brains more than the heart when it comes to love. You know what the elders say? Love won’t keep you warm in the cold of the night or fed when there’s no more food on the table. That’s what they tell us when they see us head over heels in love with someone who has clearly no ambition in life. But since love can make us all go blind, we scoff at their wise words and opt to listen more to our hearts than to reason.

This girl who got tangled with a relative is now suffering alongside her daughter. She didn’t listen to her mother and older siblings advising her against being with that relative. I am honest enough to say that the relative has no plans of ever working for his daughter. He is dependent on his mom even at 20, and with a family of his own. There are other relatives helping him get work but he goes through the motion of applying and training and that’s it! He will give one excuse after another and before everyone knows it, he’s back to his old ways. Staying up late playing computer games and waking up midday to look for food for himself.

So where did love lead the girl? To a miserable life burdened with a common law spouse who doesn’t want to work and a daughter who will surely suffer as she grows older.

Sometimes it really pays to listen to those who are already wise beyond their years.

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