Solitude

When it comes to love, I am not an expert. But I try to compensate for it by being a good listener.

My friends would always come to me when they have love problems. Not for an advice per se. I do believe that they need someone who would listen to them rant more than anything else. And I can be a good listener if I put my mind to it. Short attention span aside, I know I can stay still and listen to a friend pour her heart out.

That’s been my role for years. A listener. A reluctant advisor to the love sick friends of mine. No complaints here. As long as they don’t abuse my listening powers, everything’s cool and they can rant and rant all they want!

I love reading romance novels. One of my favorite authors is Judith McNaught. Her books Perfect and Paradise are two of my all-time favorite romance novels. When I read Paradise, I have never forgotten the main characters, Matt Farrell and Meredith Bancroft. It feels like I’ve known them personally after I have read the book. And because Matt and Meredith are both loved by s many fans of Paradise, they requested that they be included in another book of McNaught. They play a pivotal role in Perfect. They became the friends of Julie Mathison and Zach Benedict.

Love both stories! Love Paradise more, though.

From the beginning, when I opened this blog, I must admit that I am having problems with the topic I will write here. I tried music. That was my original intention for this blog. Then I gave this to my sister. But she was too busy finding work that time. I ended up getting this blog back. When I got this back, I thought of making this a blog about romance, love, dating. Stuff like that. Again, I don’t think it worked out. I am not much into the romance thing these days so it’s hard to write about it.

So you know what I realized? I will make this an ad hoc blog about news and other interesting stuff that is related to music and love. A combination of the two topics I have been writing about here.

And did you notice that I changed themes again? I like the other one from SimplyWP but I have been seeing other blogs using it so I thought of changing it to this one. I have yet to create a header for this blog but after thinking the topic of this blog through, I now have the image of the header that I will create. Later

If you have been friends with this guy for the longest time now, you’ve always felt comfortable with him, spilled your guts already one rainy night over a bottle of beer, but have never thought of a potential lover when all of a sudden, you see him in a different light. You notice the little things that make him “cute”. The raised eyebrow when you say something funny. The crinkling of his eyes when he is amused. The bridge of his nose that looks so sexy all of a sudden… How do you deal with all of these? Do you tell the guy that you like him and ask if he’s interested or do you just wait for him to start acting lovey-dovey towards you to at least give you a hint of his feelings? Tell me, what do you do?

I must admit that I love reading advice columns. There is this problem that I read about a girl and a divorced guy. The girl is going steady with the divorced guy for more than two years now. She is hoping that they will get married soon. But the guy, coming from an unpleasant marriage is not that excited to jump into another one again. The problem is, the girl is ready to commit and start a family but afraid to voice out her stand to the guy. She understands where he’s coming from but then she’s harboring this fear that he might not marry her at all.

Is he just undecided or averse to the idea of marriage altogether?

I like the advice of the columnist. Better talk it out with the guy right away. Do not wait for another year and then the girl will just find out that her fears came true. If the guy has plans, lay it out now. No more hedging on his part. It’s just fair, right?

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Do you know that Dear Abby column in the past? I read that regularly! I guess being the eldest, not just in our family but also among my numerous cousins, has this effect. You always have a ready suggestion to make, an advice to dish out.

Got any problems I can help you with? Hehe