I do believe in destiny, in fate. I believe that no matter how hard we work on making something happen, even if it indeed happens, if it’s not actually meant to be chances are it won’t last long. It will end.

This applies especially in love. Do not push it and it will come to you if it’s meant to be yours in the first place. If it’s not, no amount of pushing and pulling and cajoling and seducing can make the person yours.

I believe this.
At the end of the day, what we are all after is to love and be loved in return.
We want to experience love in its entirety.

It doesn’t matter from whom we will give and receive love.
What matters is that there will be an exchange.
Accept the person and be accepted in return.

Happy Thursday everyone!

I still believe there is what they call true love. A love that endures over time. A love that a person brings even to his/her grave. It’s still out there and there are still couples who find it. Lucky they are!

Can you imagine Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries getting married in a very lavish fairy tale wedding and then getting divorced 72 days after?!? They don’t even honor the sanctity of marriage! Kim said in interviews that she loved the guy that’s why she married him but then she had to follow her heart and cut the ties because she’s no longer happy. WTF?!? How can you decide that the marriage is finally over when you haven’t even given it a chance? What does a normal married couple do when they find themselves in a deep rut? They don’t run to the nearest law office to hire a divorce attorney, that’s for sure! They go to a marriage counselor and seek help to make the marriage work. Now if no matter how many times you’ve sought help the problems still persist, then that’s the time you consider cutting the ties to make a clean break. But not before exhausting all possible avenues for a reconciliation!

Ahh… this generation is truly making a mockery out of love. I wonder if the kids of today still believe in true love, in marriage and making it work, in sacrifices for the love ones, in prioritizing others over oneself, in being true to their partners.

I wonder…

The photo above is so cute that I know I need to post it.

You know in love there really are no rules to follow. We can kiss whomever we want and love whomever we want to. Gone are the days when society will dictate someone unsuitable for you. These days, there are so many ways for a love affair to prosper.

You can kiss a dog all you want even if you are a cat!

Happy Wednesday!

Some people are not meant to be together. They fall in love, face one hurdle after another, and then however they fight for their love they still end up apart. It happened to some people I know. It happened to me. It will happen again to a lot of couples out there.

It’s just the way love goes. I would like to think that there really is someone out there for each of us, just waiting in the offing, waiting for us to open our hearts to their presence.

Have a lovely day everyone!

Sometimes it is best to use the brains more than the heart when it comes to love. You know what the elders say? Love won’t keep you warm in the cold of the night or fed when there’s no more food on the table. That’s what they tell us when they see us head over heels in love with someone who has clearly no ambition in life. But since love can make us all go blind, we scoff at their wise words and opt to listen more to our hearts than to reason.

This girl who got tangled with a relative is now suffering alongside her daughter. She didn’t listen to her mother and older siblings advising her against being with that relative. I am honest enough to say that the relative has no plans of ever working for his daughter. He is dependent on his mom even at 20, and with a family of his own. There are other relatives helping him get work but he goes through the motion of applying and training and that’s it! He will give one excuse after another and before everyone knows it, he’s back to his old ways. Staying up late playing computer games and waking up midday to look for food for himself.

So where did love lead the girl? To a miserable life burdened with a common law spouse who doesn’t want to work and a daughter who will surely suffer as she grows older.

Sometimes it really pays to listen to those who are already wise beyond their years.

There are some of us who are unlucky in love. One bad relationship after another. It seems we can’t find a break, the gods of love frowning at us all the time.

My friend was once in this kind of cycle. She kept going in and out of a relationship with men who only used her, men who didn’t love her at all. But the cycle ended. Just when she was trying to settle with a no good man, she found the right one for her. She found him at the office of all places! She’s looking all over the metro for the man with whom she can share the rest of her life with but she didn’t know the right man for her was just waiting inside the office.

I am happy to say that we might be unlucky in love now but the right one will come along. Just don’t stop opening your eyes and looking out for the one.

Would you go out with a guy your friends make fun of?

It depends. If I am so into the guy, then why not? I will just have to tell my friends to back off and give the guy a chance. But if I just want to test the guy or I’m not really into him, I would rather be friends with him first. Again, I will have to tell my friends to back off.

I remember thinking about this when a guy and a girl from high school became a couple. I found out about it in Facebook and I was one of the first ones to discuss it with friends. The guy was a class clown. The girl was one of those we didn’t notice but was just there. But it just fascinated all of us that she fell for the guy. To be blunt about it, he is not good-looking. He isn’t someone you can proudly bring home to mom and dad. He isn’t filthy rich that you’d fall for his pocket and would ignore his other flaws. I guess the girl really fell for him then.

But it made me question my beliefs. Am I really that shallow when it comes to love? Am I like everyone else who would ridicule, laugh, make fun of an odd couple? Do I shake my head and think it stupid that a girl fell in love with a guy everyone makes fun of?

Are you? Would you?

If you are in love, you can twist any scenario to favor your current apple of the eye. I know because I’ve been there. No matter how negative the issue is, you can always find something to make your partner look good in the eyes of every one concerned about you. You find excuse after excuse to throw them off the negative issue.

I’ve been there. Someone I fell in love with was bad news. I think I knew it already but as I’ve said, I was twisting scenarios so he would emerge as a good thing for me and I could stay in my heaven with him. It was bad.

I just have to thank the good fates for knocking some sense into me. Love is heaven if it’s pure and good. Not if you are just twisting it to suit you.

Cooking seems to be the fastest way to a man’s heart. Good food that you cooked yourself. I think this applies to both men and women.

I keep teasing my friend about how her husband professes his love for her on Facebook every time he’s full from a great dish she cooked. In that alone you can see how true this saying about food and a man’s heart.

Hehehe

Photo credit: Tim Ng on Facebook