Be still…

My heart is telling me to let go of all the anger in it. But I don’t know if I am strong enough to do just that. I am only human after all. I know that to forgive is divine and all that. It takes time to do it, though. I cannot just say that I will forgive that person and do that in the same breath.

Right now, my heart is telling me to let go of all my fears. I could let go of one. The fear of going back to doing what I love but in an environment I hate so much. I am letting go of that fear and will psyche myself to the possibility facing that one. I am still hoping I need not but then this is not forever so I just might.

Be still and listen to what your heart is saying… So what does your heart tell you right now?

Cherish each day

Cherish your visions. Cherish your ideas.
Cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind,
the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts,
for out of them will grow all delightful conditions, all heavenly environment,
of these, if you but remain true to them your world will at last be built.

Undecided or hedging?

I must admit that I love reading advice columns. There is this problem that I read about a girl and a divorced guy. The girl is going steady with the divorced guy for more than two years now. She is hoping that they will get married soon. But the guy, coming from an unpleasant marriage is not that excited to jump into another one again. The problem is, the girl is ready to commit and start a family but afraid to voice out her stand to the guy. She understands where he’s coming from but then she’s harboring this fear that he might not marry her at all.

Is he just undecided or averse to the idea of marriage altogether?

I like the advice of the columnist. Better talk it out with the guy right away. Do not wait for another year and then the girl will just find out that her fears came true. If the guy has plans, lay it out now. No more hedging on his part. It’s just fair, right?

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Do you know that Dear Abby column in the past? I read that regularly! I guess being the eldest, not just in our family but also among my numerous cousins, has this effect. You always have a ready suggestion to make, an advice to dish out.

Got any problems I can help you with? Hehe

That person…

When I saw him walking towards me, I felt nothing. That was the time I realized that I didn’t love him at all. He told me afterwards, after our dinner, that I didn’t even hug him when we said goodbye. I didn’t even stop him when he was expecting me to try and make him stay an hour or two more. I couldn’t tell him that I felt nothing that time. As in nothing at all except kinda funny inside. Like I was waiting for that moment and then when it came, all I could think about was I ruined everything.

You see, when you are constantly talking to someone, exchanging lifelong dreams and crazy ideas on a daily basis, you think of that person as your soulmate. Not the cheesy one, okay? That person I am talking about could be a person of the same gender, or of the opposite sex. And no romantic angle at all. But then, you have expectations. When you finally meet him or her in person, it could either kill that feeling or seal it. The former happened to me.

I was kicking myself the whole time I was on the road home because I could have avoided that empty feeling. I could have psyched myself more. I could have chosen to be positive about the whole thing.

Then again, maybe it was really headed that way.

Aargh!

My bestfriend’s wife

What do you do when your bestfriend’s relatives tell you they do not like your bestfriend’s wife?

It as an awkward situation, to say the least. My bestfriend’s uncle told my dad about their dislike towards my bestfriend’s wife. They ranted about her and how they told her to her face how much they don’t like her. Apparently, they attended their wedding after my bestfriend begged his relatives. They’re the only ones he’s got left. His mother died a few years ago while his dad is now busy with his own family.

The relatives told the wife that they liked the ex-girlfriend better than her because the ex loves them and is close to them until now. While the wife does not even acknowledge them and is doing her best to brainwash my bestfriend against them. Actually the latter is the reason why their dislike for her was sealed. They learned that she was telling my bestfriend to stop helping them in any way.

Honestly, when I first met her, I am prepared to like her. It was a brief meeting at my bestfriend’s mom’s wake. And she was pleasant enough. Friendly. Her mom is the best because we hit it off instantly. Plus, even if she wasn’t that pleasant, I am prepared to like her out of loyalty to my bestfriend. We’ve been bestfriends for more than a decade already and I support his decisions in life. But when my sister and I stayed with the wife’s family a year before they got married, her true colors emerged. She really was unpleasant at times. I don’t know. Maybe it’s the woman in me who feels the woman in her. It’s like she’s really someone else but is hiding it well.

Oh well. I won’t tell my bestfriend about what his uncle told my dad. I don’t know how. I just wish that there will be a compromise soon. My bestfriend is a good man and he deserves happiness in his life. Not this rift.

Unwind and feel free

It had been a hectic week. I wish I could go to a place like this and just relax. No worries about tomorrow. No pouring rain. No distractions.

Just me, the wind, the sun and the water.

Happy weekend!

Dating in the office

How do you feel about dating co-workers?

I don’t believe this is advisable. In fact, I would advise otherwise. No to office dating! Before anything else, I believe this brings complication and awkwardness to an office setting. There will be talks, especially if the person you are dating is someone in a higher position. Now, let’s say everything is going well with the two of you. No hassles. All your co-workers accept your relationship. Then comes a fight. Just think how awkward it will be. Let’s go fast forward. You two broke up. How much more awkwardness can you put in the situation?

Of course, I am being pessimistic here. I am aware of the fact that some couples who started out as co-workers ended up married and having a great relationship. But this is the exception to the rule.

Let me know your thoughts on this.

Men and women, friends?

Do you think men and women can be just friends? Why or why not?

I saw this question somewhere and my take on it is… Yes, men and women can be just friends. In my case, anyway. I have been friends with several men from my high school class for over 15 years now. I was even friends with most of their exes. My best friend, Lem, was and still is my best friend for years now. And I’ve known him since we were pre-schoolers.

Of course, I am speaking only for myself and several of my girl friends. I know for some this is not possible. But, yes, men and women can be just friends.

Stressed out

There are days when I feel like I am so stressed out even when I am working at home already. There are just too many demands on me. Friends suggested being away even for a few days. Caribbean villa rentals sound just about heavenly right now. I guess I really need to be away. A friend is inviting me to go on a roadtrip to the North. I just might say yes now.

Is life passing you by?

Often we allow life to pass us by, because we forget what life really is.

We are constantly thinking. We have something like sixty thousand thoughts per day. Our thoughts are mostly concerned with the past and the future. How often do you think of the moment your in right now and nothing else? This very moment is what you life is, everything else is just a picture in your mind.

In order to be alive you have to Be Here Now!

You’ve experienced the feeling of being here now, you’ve been there many times in your life. It’s the feeling of being in the moment, where past and future seize to exist and all your worries are gone. You forget who you are, it doesn’t matter. You are just here now.

Being Here Now is a feeling of complete joy!

If you wish to be happy in life, you must learn experience as many moments as possible, each moment fully experienced will bring more and more happiness in to your life.

Source: Alive: www.lifecoachesblog.com