Solitude

Greetings!

bahchi — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 02:53:48 +0000

Awkward words

bahchi — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:59:42 +0000

The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.
- O. A. Battista

This is so true. And I’m afraid that it is actually in my family. We grew up with a tough dad. Sure, he shows us he loves us but the words were, and still are, never spoken. For some reason, it feels awkward when we try to speak of what we feel. Actions are more appropriate for our family.

Maybe, in time, we will get more comfortable with the words. For now, actions will do.

Be still…

bahchi — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 16:07:54 +0000

My heart is telling me to let go of all the anger in it. But I don’t know if I am strong enough to do just that. I am only human after all. I know that to forgive is divine and all that. It takes time to do it, though. I cannot just say that I will forgive that person and do that in the same breath.

Right now, my heart is telling me to let go of all my fears. I could let go of one. The fear of going back to doing what I love but in an environment I hate so much. I am letting go of that fear and will psyche myself to the possibility facing that one. I am still hoping I need not but then this is not forever so I just might.

Be still and listen to what your heart is saying… So what does your heart tell you right now?

Let me put this question to you…

bahchi — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 17:51:07 +0000

If you have been friends with this guy for the longest time now, you’ve always felt comfortable with him, spilled your guts already one rainy night over a bottle of beer, but have never thought of a potential lover when all of a sudden, you see him in a different light. You notice the little things that make him “cute”. The raised eyebrow when you say something funny. The crinkling of his eyes when he is amused. The bridge of his nose that looks so sexy all of a sudden… How do you deal with all of these? Do you tell the guy that you like him and ask if he’s interested or do you just wait for him to start acting lovey-dovey towards you to at least give you a hint of his feelings? Tell me, what do you do?

Cherish each day

bahchi — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 16:46:40 +0000

Cherish your visions. Cherish your ideas.
Cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind,
the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts,
for out of them will grow all delightful conditions, all heavenly environment,
of these, if you but remain true to them your world will at last be built.

Undecided or hedging?

bahchi — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:23:47 +0000

I must admit that I love reading advice columns. There is this problem that I read about a girl and a divorced guy. The girl is going steady with the divorced guy for more than two years now. She is hoping that they will get married soon. But the guy, coming from an unpleasant marriage is not that excited to jump into another one again. The problem is, the girl is ready to commit and start a family but afraid to voice out her stand to the guy. She understands where he’s coming from but then she’s harboring this fear that he might not marry her at all.

Is he just undecided or averse to the idea of marriage altogether?

I like the advice of the columnist. Better talk it out with the guy right away. Do not wait for another year and then the girl will just find out that her fears came true. If the guy has plans, lay it out now. No more hedging on his part. It’s just fair, right?

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Do you know that Dear Abby column in the past? I read that regularly! I guess being the eldest, not just in our family but also among my numerous cousins, has this effect. You always have a ready suggestion to make, an advice to dish out.

Got any problems I can help you with? Hehe

Scratch that last post…

bahchi — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 17:04:20 +0000

I love this theme that I found at SimplyWP! I was checking out different themes when I found out that there is a new release in SimplyWP. Since this blog is all about Solitude, I figured the theme suits

What do you think?

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Temporary theme

bahchi — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 16:30:42 +0000

My previous theme got corrupted. You might have noticed my two-day absence. That was caused by a Wordpress exploit that apparently happened to most blogs using the versions lower than 2.6.5. I like that theme a lot. I think I will just try to revive it. And I do hope I could.

This one that I am using right now will only be a temporary one. I don’t like how light the colors are. But this will do for now. Beggars can’t be choosers, right?

Happy blogging!

That person…

bahchi — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 16:26:13 +0000

When I saw him walking towards me, I felt nothing. That was the time I realized that I didn’t love him at all. He told me afterwards, after our dinner, that I didn’t even hug him when we said goodbye. I didn’t even stop him when he was expecting me to try and make him stay an hour or two more. I couldn’t tell him that I felt nothing that time. As in nothing at all except kinda funny inside. Like I was waiting for that moment and then when it came, all I could think about was I ruined everything.

You see, when you are constantly talking to someone, exchanging lifelong dreams and crazy ideas on a daily basis, you think of that person as your soulmate. Not the cheesy one, okay? That person I am talking about could be a person of the same gender, or of the opposite sex. And no romantic angle at all. But then, you have expectations. When you finally meet him or her in person, it could either kill that feeling or seal it. The former happened to me.

I was kicking myself the whole time I was on the road home because I could have avoided that empty feeling. I could have psyched myself more. I could have chosen to be positive about the whole thing.

Then again, maybe it was really headed that way.

Aargh!

I Got Awards!!!

bahchi — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 03:02:08 +0000

Tita Liza was very kind to give me these 2 awards. Thank you, tita!

“This blog invests and believes, in ‘proximity’ [meaning, that blogging makes us ‘close’ - being close through proxy]. These blogs are all charming and they aim to show the marvels of friendship. Let’s give more attention to them! So with this prize we must deliver it to eight bloggers that in turn must make the same thing and put this text.”

I will post my awardees in a while. Thank you again, tita!